The foundation of the deepest relationships is not a discovery of a perfect person; it might not even be a discovery of the right person. It is more of a mutual decision between two people, and its basis is this: I will put up with you if you will put up with me. In situations like marriage, we must approach it with this concept, “I will love you in spite of.” And in some ways, the three most important words in that formulation are not “I love you,” but rather, “in spite of.” Because it is the “in spite of” that makes the “I love you” true.
